In the Pairing dynamic, the group becomes preoccupied with an intense, often erotic, energy between two members. The pair may engage in a lively dialogue or exchange, which can be either combative or flirtatious. The rest of the group becomes transfixed by this interaction, hanging on every word and gesture, as if the outcome of the pairing will provide a magical solution to the group's challenges.
This dynamic serves as a way for the group to avoid the primary task by displacing responsibility onto the pair. The group unconsciously believes that something transformative will come out of the pair's interaction, saving them from the difficulties and uncertainties they face in pursuing their primary objective.
The magical thinking at play in the group during Pairing involves:
1. The group's irrational belief that the pair's interaction will somehow miraculously resolve the group's challenges without requiring any effort or input from the rest of the group.
2. The group's fantasies that the pair will come up with a brilliant idea, find a hidden solution, or even merge into a single, omnipotent entity capable of overcoming any obstacle.
3. The group's temporary escape from the reality of their situation through a voyeuristic, vicarious experience of the intense energetic exchanges between the pair.
However, this magical thinking is ultimately a form of denial and avoidance. It can lead to:
1. The group's failure to take responsibility for their own role in addressing the group's challenges.
2. The group's increasing dependence on the pair and diminishing capability to take effective action on their own.
3. A sense of accomplishment of satisfaction rooted in the observation of the exchange rather than in progress towards the primary objective.